First of all I have to apologize that I can't type in Thai. I'm abroad right now and I'm using my fiance's laptop (He's at work).
I have a big decision to make. This concerns me and my fiance. Let me give you some background information about myself.
I'm a 30 years old woman. I'm from a good family (middle class). My dad is a retired government officer with high rank. I'm an officer with a respectable position (but not that good pay though haha). My life is good. I've traveled to many countries including the US, Canada, Australia. This is my first time in a small country in Europe.
I met my Fiance almost two years ago in the US. We both got a scholarship to study there. I had a chance to be with him a little over one month but we were passionately in love and decided to keep trying with the long distance relationship.
I should give you some background info about him. He is two years younger than me. He is from a small country in Europe. He works as a soldier with officer's rank and has a master's degree. He is good looking and takes a good care of himself. He is loving, kind, faithful and has a sense of humor. He also comes from a good middle class family. I've met his parents and they are such great people! All in all, he is a perfect man for me and I think I will be really hard for me to come across a man like this ever again in my life. The only drawback I see about him is he is an online gamer but I guess nobody's perfect.
Last year, he visited me in Thailand for a month. My family is old-fashioned so before he came my mom suggested that I tell him we get engaged (so that we can travel together and stay together without being inappropriate). I wasn't oblighted to do so but ended up telling him anyway (didn't want to push him at that point as we knew each other for only around 8 months. Also, it was not so romantic!). I took him a while but he finally said , "I don't think I could find a woman as perfect for me as you". So, he gave me the amount of budget he has for the ring. It was so nice of him for being so understanding with my custom. We got engaged at a hotel without any dowry but the ring (my parents didn't want anything from him). My parents have been really supportive with my relationship with him. They like him so much.
We continued our long distance relationship until the last two months that I flew to this country to try living with him here as it will be after I married him. It is a small and peaceful country in Europe with beautiful nature that I like. However, English is not spoken here and it's not easy to learn their language. My fiance speaks really good English but he said that he loves his country and doesn't want to move anywhere (it would be possible for him to find a job in Canada or Australia.). When I got here the first month, he took me hiking up on a mountain overlooking his hometown and plan a really romantic propose with the help of his friends (dinner on the mountain with actual table and chairs! Candles lit on the way and Champagne! It was more than I a girl could ask for!). He told me I gave him his heart that he thought he's never had. I love him to death. He is a great guy but when I'm here I'm not quite sure if I'll be able to live here all my life. Even though I consider myself an independent person and rather a loner, I'm not so sure anymore when I'm here.
We both want children as soon as possible (I'm 30 already!) and agree that it is the only way to make my move here reasonable and that I won't go crazy having nothing to do. He has been nice with me about money so far. He paid everything for me to the point that I have to insist paying sometimes (I don't feel comfortable getting paid for all the time.). However, I don't think it's a good thing in the long run asking for his money and being dependent. But it's just so hard for a non-native speaker to find a job here. That's another thing that I concern about. I mean he loves me now, but once love fades will he be happy supporting me?
It is really hard to see this through because he is such a perfect guy for me. He has good job, education, comes from good family. When I cook for him he always offers himself to clean the dishes even though he told me he hated washing the dishes so much and once we had our own place he would get the dish washing machine first. When we went for a long hike and my feet were tired he always gave me foot massage. He told me the amount of money in his saving account. He took me on vacation to other countries nearby. He used to be in a one-year relationship but he wasn't that much in love with the girl and thought he would end up alone. So, I really don't want to break both his heart and mine.
Another thing that comes to consideration are my parents. They've been supportive to me. My mom told me to find a good guy that will love me and take a good care of me for the rest of my life because she will not live long enough to do that. They have no problem with me leaving Thailand. I have two older brothers but I feel bad as a daughter. All I could do was when I was with them I drove them everywhere I can and tried to be a good daughter as much as possible because I knew I wouldn't have much time to be with them. This really makes me feel sad.
I'm just not sure if things will work out as planned. I was the one who told him I'm willing to give up everything in Thailand to be with him even though he asked me many times if I was really sure (because he was certain he didn't want to leave his country). Does it worth sacrificing everything for love alone? Is there a chance for me to live here happily for the rest of my life. Will it be better after I learn the language? Can you please share your valuable experiences so that I can make the right decision before it's too late. Thanks a lot guys.
P.S. You can type in Thai.
What would you do if you were me?
I have a big decision to make. This concerns me and my fiance. Let me give you some background information about myself.
I'm a 30 years old woman. I'm from a good family (middle class). My dad is a retired government officer with high rank. I'm an officer with a respectable position (but not that good pay though haha). My life is good. I've traveled to many countries including the US, Canada, Australia. This is my first time in a small country in Europe.
I met my Fiance almost two years ago in the US. We both got a scholarship to study there. I had a chance to be with him a little over one month but we were passionately in love and decided to keep trying with the long distance relationship.
I should give you some background info about him. He is two years younger than me. He is from a small country in Europe. He works as a soldier with officer's rank and has a master's degree. He is good looking and takes a good care of himself. He is loving, kind, faithful and has a sense of humor. He also comes from a good middle class family. I've met his parents and they are such great people! All in all, he is a perfect man for me and I think I will be really hard for me to come across a man like this ever again in my life. The only drawback I see about him is he is an online gamer but I guess nobody's perfect.
Last year, he visited me in Thailand for a month. My family is old-fashioned so before he came my mom suggested that I tell him we get engaged (so that we can travel together and stay together without being inappropriate). I wasn't oblighted to do so but ended up telling him anyway (didn't want to push him at that point as we knew each other for only around 8 months. Also, it was not so romantic!). I took him a while but he finally said , "I don't think I could find a woman as perfect for me as you". So, he gave me the amount of budget he has for the ring. It was so nice of him for being so understanding with my custom. We got engaged at a hotel without any dowry but the ring (my parents didn't want anything from him). My parents have been really supportive with my relationship with him. They like him so much.
We continued our long distance relationship until the last two months that I flew to this country to try living with him here as it will be after I married him. It is a small and peaceful country in Europe with beautiful nature that I like. However, English is not spoken here and it's not easy to learn their language. My fiance speaks really good English but he said that he loves his country and doesn't want to move anywhere (it would be possible for him to find a job in Canada or Australia.). When I got here the first month, he took me hiking up on a mountain overlooking his hometown and plan a really romantic propose with the help of his friends (dinner on the mountain with actual table and chairs! Candles lit on the way and Champagne! It was more than I a girl could ask for!). He told me I gave him his heart that he thought he's never had. I love him to death. He is a great guy but when I'm here I'm not quite sure if I'll be able to live here all my life. Even though I consider myself an independent person and rather a loner, I'm not so sure anymore when I'm here.
We both want children as soon as possible (I'm 30 already!) and agree that it is the only way to make my move here reasonable and that I won't go crazy having nothing to do. He has been nice with me about money so far. He paid everything for me to the point that I have to insist paying sometimes (I don't feel comfortable getting paid for all the time.). However, I don't think it's a good thing in the long run asking for his money and being dependent. But it's just so hard for a non-native speaker to find a job here. That's another thing that I concern about. I mean he loves me now, but once love fades will he be happy supporting me?
It is really hard to see this through because he is such a perfect guy for me. He has good job, education, comes from good family. When I cook for him he always offers himself to clean the dishes even though he told me he hated washing the dishes so much and once we had our own place he would get the dish washing machine first. When we went for a long hike and my feet were tired he always gave me foot massage. He told me the amount of money in his saving account. He took me on vacation to other countries nearby. He used to be in a one-year relationship but he wasn't that much in love with the girl and thought he would end up alone. So, I really don't want to break both his heart and mine.
Another thing that comes to consideration are my parents. They've been supportive to me. My mom told me to find a good guy that will love me and take a good care of me for the rest of my life because she will not live long enough to do that. They have no problem with me leaving Thailand. I have two older brothers but I feel bad as a daughter. All I could do was when I was with them I drove them everywhere I can and tried to be a good daughter as much as possible because I knew I wouldn't have much time to be with them. This really makes me feel sad.
I'm just not sure if things will work out as planned. I was the one who told him I'm willing to give up everything in Thailand to be with him even though he asked me many times if I was really sure (because he was certain he didn't want to leave his country). Does it worth sacrificing everything for love alone? Is there a chance for me to live here happily for the rest of my life. Will it be better after I learn the language? Can you please share your valuable experiences so that I can make the right decision before it's too late. Thanks a lot guys.
P.S. You can type in Thai.